While the authors of this site make some effort to screen the qualifications of Professionals listed on the Resource page, the listing of a professional on the resource page is not an endorsement of the practitioner’s professional competency or ethics.

The authors of this site are not responsible nor liable for the professional standing, competence, or services of professionals listed on the Resource Page. 


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Professionals – Add Your Name As a Resource

We welcome professionals to apply to be listed as a resource on this site. We would like to build this site into a really useful and reliable resource for clients and professionals alike.  But, we can’t list anybody who applies to be listed because they assert “I’m kink friendly” or “I know about kink because I’m in the scene.”  A therapist’s self-assertion they are competent and kink friendly doesn’t give any protection at all to consumers that they will find a therapist here who is both kink-friendly and competent. Even the RC and Evangelical churches say they love and welcome gay people, but we know what that means.

Please send requests to be included on the site to John@JohnMcConnellPhD.com.  Include documentation of meeting the criteria for listing, as outlined below.

Background on Our Criteria to Be Listed as a Professional Resource 

To get listed on the site as a resource it is not enough simply to be kinky oneself, to have friends who are kinky, or to have participated in the kink community.  These things would indicate there may be some basis of cultural competency about kink, but it says nothing about whether or not that the therapist has integrated that cultural competence into their theoretical model of therapy.

There is a body of emergent research on what is helpful and not helpful in working with kinky clients, and there is research about what therapeutic interventions facilitate what might be thought of as a positive kink identity.  There is also a body of emergent literature on kink-friendly therapy (e.g., David Ortmann), and a well-established core canon of literature within the community (e.g., Geoff Mains, Guy Baldwin, Dossie Easton, Jack Morin).  We expect professionals listed on the site to provide evidence of being current on this body of research and literature.  We are looking for therapists who are both culturally competent and who work within a scientist/professional discipline.  Anything less can be harmful for clients.

These Criteria Are A Work In Progress and Aspirational 

Developing the criteria to be listed on the site is a a work in progress.  As they are a work in progress, we invite your commentary on the criteria so that we may improve them.

If we set the bar too high we may turn away professionals who might be really great.  If we set it too low we may end up listing professionals who have a high probability of doing more harm than good to clients.  In setting up the criteria to be included, we have probably erred on the side of setting the bar too high.  But we think these criteria are ones that all kink-friendly therapists should aspire to.  We invite applicants to view the criteria as aspirational, not necessarily definitive and exclusive.  We DO NOT at all expect applicants to meet all or even most of the examples of the criteria.  They are just examples. We DO  ask all applicants to make a good faith effort to provide us with evidence of meeting all four of the general criteria.



Five Criteria for Inclusion as a
Professional Resource on This Site

If you are interested in being listed on the site, we ask that you submit documentation of meeting these five general criteria.

(1) Competency as a therapist in general, for example: 

      1. Information about your license, including a link to where you license is listed as active on the relevant state Board’s web site (required).
      2. Evidence of general clinical competence, including recommendation letters from 3 professionals who have been in practice for more than five years (desirable); and/or
      3. Advanced certification in a recognized therapeutic modality (EFT, EMDR, Psychoanalytic training).

(2) Cultural competence about kink and the community, for example:

      1. Participation in workshops in the community, or volunteering in substantial ways in the community; and/or
      2. Publication of materials directed to the community; and/or
      3. Extensive reading on the history, arts, literature, and sociology of the  community, evidenced by an extensive bibliography in one of your presentations or on your website.
      4. Provide local and national kink-friendly links on your website for clients.

(3)  Professional/scientist approach toward the relevant research about therapy and kink, for example:

      1. Has participated for the equivalent of 4 CEs over the last two years in a professional setting as a presenter, or an audience member, in continuing education credits on kink and therapy; and/or
      2. Has advanced training about kink and therapy through an accredited agency, like ASSECT, LLC; and/or
      3. Extensive reading of the relevant research and theory on BDSM/kink/poly, evidenced by an extensive bibliography in one of your presentations or on your website. .

(4) Integration of a kink-positive perspective into their professional practice in a thoughtful way, for example:

      1. Has received supervision or consultation from a recognized “expert in the field”  such as Guy Baldwin, David Ortmann, William Henkin, Tiger Devore, etc; and/or
      2. Has professionally presented or published on this topic; and/or
      3. Can articulate a developmental model of kink-positive identity and how it relates to treatment and/or
      4. Can articulate how they integrate their cultural competency and their theoretical understanding of kink into their primary model of therapy (be it CBT, EFT, Kohut, DBT,  Gestalt, or whatever).

(5) Be out about your work, for example:

             1.   Include being kinky-friendly/ poly-friendly in your advertising, and explain what that means,